During my apple cider rinse this morning, I found myself in a familiar realm of contemplation – the shower seems to be where I think best. A simple question echoed in my thoughts: Why don’t we put ourselves first?

It struck me as odd that we often find ourselves scrimping on self-care essentials while readily splurging on unnecessary items. Given, I’d be blaming my recent lackluster hair on coffee, stress, and the straightener and not really looking at what the root cause of the problem could be.

We spend $50 at Kmart every other week on things we definitely don’t need while opting for $2 shampoo from the reject shop. As I walked around smelling like fermented apples, I reflected on my choices, knowing I could have chosen to invest in the good stuff from the beginning. Why do we make these Band-Aid choices, fully aware that they lead to future damage control and greater investments? It’s a perplexing cycle that seems to extend beyond haircare into various aspects of our lives. As busy women juggling households, we find ourselves at the bottom of our own priority lists.Is it an instinct or a learned behavior ingrained over years of women being the primary homemakers and caregivers? The reasons elude me, but the pattern persists.

Whether it’s neglecting ourselves, our homes, businesses, or work – there’s always something we place at the bottom of our priority list. And if we’re honest with ourselves, it’s often the things we resist that persist.It’s an annoying truth that we neglect something, receive hints and opportunities to address it, yet choose to ignore the signs. Eventually, we find ourselves in resistance mode, the issue in persistence mode, and suddenly, we’re left dealing with a crisis we could have prevented.

So, how do we break this cycle and prioritise ourselves?
The first step is acknowledging that you can’t prioritise something you don’t value. Self-value is the cornerstone of the journey. But how do we proceed? Here’s where it gets tricky. There’s no one-size-fits-all roadmap because, in essence, everyone’s journey is unique.
The second step involves understanding why there’s a block in the first place. Why don’t you invest in quality shampoo for your hair? Perhaps it’s tied to childhood messages or beliefs instilled by others, like your mother praising the strength of your grandmother’s hair that you inherited. Maybe you don’t see the need to care for your hair or invest in your health, your happiness, your dreams, or your business because of deep-rooted perceptions.

The road to self-prioritisation is a personal journey. It demands introspection, breaking down barriers, and confronting the beliefs that hold you back. There’s no quick fix or easy route, but understanding your values and unraveling the reasons behind self-neglect can set you on a path toward positive change.

As we navigate the complexities of life, let’s challenge ourselves to break free from the cycle of neglect. Make a commitment to invest in yourself, whether it’s through self-care rituals, pursuing hobbies, or chasing your dreams. Remember, you deserve the same level of care and attention that you graciously extend to others.

So, let this be the moment you decide to prioritise yourself. Take that first step, explore your values, and uncover the why behind your blocks. In doing so, you’re not just investing in shampoo; you’re investing in your well-being and reclaiming your place at the top of your priority list. There’s a reason they tell you to fit your oxygen mask first.

It’s time to embrace a journey of self-value, and watch the domino effect on your life!
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